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Five Big Lies In Rick Santorum & Tony Perkins’ New Propaganda Infomercial

Tony PerkinsIn some other alternate universe, Tony Perkins and Rick Santorum are madly in love, own a cute little B&B in rural Pennsyltucky, and have pet names for each other like “Perky” and “Santa.” We like to picture them in this happy context, rather than how they are in this universe: angry, spiteful, untrustworthy sneaks.

Exhibit A is their loathsome new campaign to convince churchgoers that gay couples want to destroy religion. They’ve teamed up for a new campaign “One Generation Away” that’s so bogged-down with lies and distortions that it might as well be a National Enquirer article. Fortunately, it’s an easy piece of propaganda to refute. Here are the top five claims in the ad, and why they’re wrong, wrong, wrong.

 

Lie number 1.: Most Americans oppose gay marriage.

Wrong. First of all, the term is “the freedom to marry.” We don’t say “gay marriage” because that suggests that marriage for gays and lesbians is somehow different from marriage for straights. While that may be true in a few ways, from a legal perspective, the differences are irrelevant. And since the fight for marriage is living primarily in courts these days, well, legal terminology matters.

But let’s get to the meat of Perkins’ half-baked claim. “Throughout the country the majority of American continue to believe that marriage should be between on man and one woman.” Nope, not even a little bit true. The polling shows that over half of the states have a majority supporting marriage; and nationally, support’s up around 60%. Even a majority of Republicans support it. Tony can claim that one study shows that a majority is on his side, but that’s simply not true: the “study” was done by a PR firm working for Tony Perkins.

 

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Lie number 2: The government is punishing wedding businesses.

Not exactly. The government is punishing businesses that break the law. And not just any law, but nondiscrimination law. Those laws exist for a good reason: it used to be perfectly legal for a businesses to turn away black people from a business; for a bank to refuse to give a loan to immigrants; or for schools to ban Catholic students or Jewish ones. That was not super-awesome, and we’ve gotten better as a country since then. But there are some folks who would like to return to that time, and they happen to be florists and bakers for some reason. (Apparently, wing nuts like to be florists as much as the gays do!)

So let’s be clear: nobody is punished for being religious. They’re being punished for engaging in illegal discrimination, and they’re mad that their religion doesn’t give them a get-out-of-following-the-law card. Sorry, folks, but there are some laws that everyone has to follow, no matter how religious you are. In fact, religious minorities benefit as much as any group from these laws, and if they had any shred of decency, they would acknowledge that they are refusing others the liberty they enjoy.

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Lie number 3: Restricting religious practices is a thought crime.

Good lord, no. The government doesn’t care what you think, it cares what you do. If you turn away certain customers but not others, and your justification is that you simply don’t like a particular protected class, that’s not a thought, it’s an action.

Besides, if a businesses really believe that they need to discriminate against gays, they have an option for doing so: they can become a private club. They’ll still be held to certain other laws — bakers can’t put bake dead rats into cakes, florists can’t break your kneecaps if you have an overdue bill — but at least you can choose who your customers are.

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Lie number 4: Discriminating against gay people doesn’t mean you hate them.

“I love gay people, I’ve had gay friends, I don’t hate them, it’s not about that,” says a woman in the video.

Look, lady. It’s very nice that you think that’s the case. But exactly what kind of a “friend” were you to those “gay friends”? Did you look down on them, tell them they’re inferior, let them know that you think you’re better than they are? Did you celebrate the happiest day of their lives by saying “ugh gross”? Because that does not seem super friendly.

You have a choice to make, homophobes. Either treat your friends with respect, which implies equality or admit that you are terrible at friendship.

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Lie number 5: Nondiscrimination laws will destroy religious freedom, so please send us $20.

Yup, the entire Perkins/Santorum video is an infomercial in disguise. But this might be the world’s weirdest sales pitch: first it tells you that you’re under attack, then it tells you that you need to send them $20 for a DVD that will tell you even more about how you’re under attack. Like, why do you even need the second DVD at this point?

Anyway, you obviously do not need to send Tony Perkins (who makes a quarter million a year just from the Family Research Council alone) any money. He has too much.

Santorum’s grinning goofy face appears briefly around this point, and if you ever wanted an example of someone who is not a friend to the gays, hoo boy, you couldn’t do much better than this guy. (He owns the company that’s selling the DVDs. So not only does he get to make a sales pitch for his company, he also gets to wink at likely voters right before announcing his presidential candidacy. What a sneaky son of a bitch.)

And more importantly, nondiscrimination laws will not, as they claim, destroy anyone’s ability to worship freely. Here’s the thing: The video throws in a little soundbite from Reagan at the very end, in which he says that freedom might be just one generation away from being destroyed. The problem is that he was talking about how freedom would be destroyed if the country enacted Medicare. And guess what? We’ve had Medicare for several generations and it seems to be going just fine. So this “one generation away” prediction of Reagan’s really isn’t any more accurate than a wild guess made by a phone psychic.

Medicare didn’t end democracy. Nondiscrimination won’t destroy the First Amendment. Everybody just calm down, and try to ignore Perkins and Santorum’s little tantrum.

Crowd Erupts In Cheers When Gay Couple Makes Out On Dodgers’ Jumbotron

Screen Shot 2015-05-04 at 4.41.22 PMSports has been having something of a great gay moment of late, with fans, players, and commentators making news by choosing to break the cycle of traditionally homophobic male athletics.

That’s not to say there’s full acceptance of LGBT people on and off the various fields of play, but a shift is undeniably underway.

Related: ESPN Reporter Shuts Down Fan’s Antigay Slur On Live TV

Just take a look at this video of baseball fans reacting to a same-sex lip lock on the kiss cam of a recent Dodgers game in Los Angeles.

There isn’t simply a lack of booing, but an influx of cheering.

The kiss comes on at around the :28 mark:

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Steve Hartline, an attendee at the game tells The Gaily Grind:

“I was at the Dodger/Diamondbacks game on Saturday evening at Dodger Stadium. Kiss Cam comes on, and after a few standard awkward couple moments, the camera focuses on two men. My natural instinct was this was for a gag/cheap laugh, but the two men turned to each other and kiss, indicating they are a real-life loving couple, not a punchline. Could this the first for a MLB game?

Either way, I’m glad I was there, as it felt historic, and was proud of the loud, enthusiastic response from the crowd. Not one person around me groaned or made derogatory remarks, and seemed genuinely pleased with the moment.”

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Fox News Contributor Guy Benson Comes Out Of The Closet, Inspires Nobody

Screen Shot 2015-05-04 at 3.20.13 PMGuy Benson is a 30-year-old Fox News contributor and political editor of the right-wing news site Townhall.com, and he’s just come out of his log cabin closet.

In a book he coauthored called End of Discussion: How the Left’s Outrage Industry Shuts Down Debate, Manipulates Voters, and Makes America Less Free (and Fun) [editor’s note: gag], Benson writes, “Guy Here. So, I’m gay.”

In an interview with Buzzfeed ahead of the book’s release, he said, “Gay rights is not something that dominates my attentions or my passions,” maintaining that his gayness is less of a cultural identifier as it is purely biological.

Related: Hear From Closeted Gay Republicans Cruising Grindr At CPAC

And there’s certainly something to be said for that position. Nobody is one thing, least of all their sexuality. But that argument does start to weaken when, as a man who happens to be gay, Benson chooses to champion those who directly oppose a group that, like it or not, he counts himself a member of.

“That may seem incongruous, that may seem counterintuitive to a lot of people,” he said. “But the issues that I care about most undergird the reasons why I’m a conservative and have been forever and will be a conservative moving forward.”

Related: The Republican Presidential Wannabes Are Already Running On Homophobia

He insists that he’s so focused on the big picture, gay rights pale in comparison. He mentions Iran and Obamacare chief among his concerns, adding that calling gay conservatives “self-loathing” is, “extraordinarily closed-minded and betrays a lack of imagination, at the very least.”

“A free-thinking, free citizen of a free country is not obliged to be confined to a bedazzled ideological straitjacket because that’s how they ‘ought’ to think and ‘ought’ to vote and ‘ought’ to rank their priorities.”

Speaking to the fact that the majority of his party would like to see same-sex marriage outlawed, he said, “You need that base, you need your core voters to turn out to win elections,” adding that “the vast majority” of that base “are not bigots.”

Related: Colorado Republicans Prove Dangerous To Queer Youth Despite National Call To End Ex-Gay Therapy

He calls the Republican gay issue an “obstacle,” but doesn’t seem to care one way or the other what the outcome of the Supreme Court case will be, though he maintains he’s “as fascinated as anyone to see how it plays out,” adding, “I don’t feel like I’m going to become particularly activist on any of this stuff.”

It would be one thing if the two major parties differed on specifics of gay rights, but the fact that Republicans have been running for decades on homophobia makes us inclined to sweep Benson and his anti-gay apologizing rhetoric out with the rest of the garbage.

What Do You Do When Your Total Top Boyfriend Refuses To Bottom?

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“I am a 28-year-old gay man,” the man writes. “In previous relationships I was — mainly — the top. I have been with my current partner for two years and in this relationship I have only been the bottom, as my partner has a fear of it.”

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“I am very frustrated, and have contemplated cheating, which fills me with guilt,” the man continues. “I love him very much, but feel as though we are incompatible on this basic level.”

That sounds like quite a predicament, and one many gay men have no doubt faced at some point in their lives. Luckily, Pamela Stephenson Connolly is an expert when it comes to these sorts of things.

“”Your feelings about sexual bottoming are perfectly valid,” she writes. “A conversation about fairness, in which you honestly express your feelings and ask for change, is needed.”

Connolly continues: “Try to delve into the metaphoric meanings of topping and bottoming for both of you. Once you feel truly understood, attempt to renegotiate that contract, expressing yourself calmly and clearly. If there is an impasse, discuss other options, including outside arrangements.”

Related: Five Things You Should Know About Your Ass

“But note,” Connolly concludes, “in consensual sex, the person bottoming is in control (psychologically topping, since he has the power to withdraw his permission). Do you really want to give that up?”

What advice would you give this man in dealing with his sexually stubborn boyfriend? Sound off in the comments section below.

Is Your Beard Dirtier Than A Toilet Seat? The Debate Rages On

Cue the hysteria. Men’s beards are filthier than toilet seats. At least according to a new study released by some mysterious lab in New Mexico.

Late last week, researchers decided to ruin the weekends of everyone on SCRUFF and GROWLr by testing the beards of random dudes on the street. They swabbed the men’s beards then took the samples back to their lab, where they soon discovered the majority of the beards were “riddled with poop particles.”

The study concluded that men’s face blankets are as “dirty as toilets,” housing the same kinds of germs found in feces. If that’s not bad enough, “these are the things that cause urinary tract infections,” says one of the scientists.

From his beard to your urinary tract. Lovely.

Related: Someone Sent The Antigay “Semen Latte” Pastor A Giant Bucket Of Poop. Yes, Poop.

That was the story until this week, when Nick Evershed, a reporter at the U.K. The Guardian, did some sleuthing and concluded that “the study” appears to be a crock of shit. (No pun intended.)

“As far as I can tell there was no proper study, no team of microbiologists and no poo in beards,” Evershed wrote. “The origin of the story appears to be this segment from a TV news network in New Mexico.”

He continued: “Even if this was a properly conducted scientific study with a large number of samples and published in a reputable journal, there wouldn’t necessarily be any cause for concern. Human skin is home to great diversity of microbes, and it’s not unheard of for types of bacteria normally found in the gut, such as E. coli, to be also found on the skin.”

To be clear, Evershed isn’t saying you should relax because there isn’t poop in your beard. He’s saying you should relax because there is poop all over your skin.

Have a great day!

Related: PHOTOS: Gay Scruff Through The Ages

Is Your Beard Dirtier Than A Toilet Seat? The Debate Rages On

Cue the hysteria. Men’s beards are filthier than toilet seats. At least according to a new study released by some mysterious lab in New Mexico.

Late last week, researchers decided to ruin the weekends of everyone on SCRUFF and GROWLr by testing the beards of random dudes on the street. They swabbed the men’s beards then took the samples back to their lab, where they soon discovered the majority of the beards were “riddled with poop particles.”

The study concluded that men’s face blankets are as “dirty as toilets,” housing the same kinds of germs found in feces. If that’s not bad enough, “these are the things that cause urinary tract infections,” says one of the scientists.

From his beard to your urinary tract. Lovely.

Related: Someone Sent The Antigay “Semen Latte” Pastor A Giant Bucket Of Poop. Yes, Poop.

That was the story until this week, when Nick Evershed, a reporter at the U.K. The Guardian, did some sleuthing and concluded that “the study” appears to be a crock of shit. (No pun intended.)

“As far as I can tell there was no proper study, no team of microbiologists and no poo in beards,” Evershed wrote. “The origin of the story appears to be this segment from a TV news network in New Mexico.”

He continued: “Even if this was a properly conducted scientific study with a large number of samples and published in a reputable journal, there wouldn’t necessarily be any cause for concern. Human skin is home to great diversity of microbes, and it’s not unheard of for types of bacteria normally found in the gut, such as E. coli, to be also found on the skin.”

To be clear, Evershed isn’t saying you should relax because there isn’t poop in your beard. He’s saying you should relax because there is poop all over your skin.

Have a great day!

Related: PHOTOS: Gay Scruff Through The Ages

Beyonce Is Really A 40-Year-Old Man, And Other Reasons Celebs Hate The “How-Old” Site

If you’ve been suffering from Gwyneth Paltrow syndrome, or in layman’s terms, an affliction in which one is cursed with too much self esteem, here’s some excellent news: the website How-Old.net has launched to give you a much-needed reality check. Seriously, is everyone equally appalled by this robot which guesses a person’s age based on an uploaded photo? If it got your age (or your gender!) all wrong, don’t fret. It has a spotty track record predicting how long celebs have been on this planet. We tested it ourselves with some of our favorite stars, both straight and gay, and the results weren’t always pretty.

Scroll down to see for some of our findings.

Lindsay Lohan, 28. The site must be counting emotional years, which take their toll.

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Cher, 68. We’ll wager that she’d feel insulted for someone to think she looks as old as Lindsay.

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Madonna, 56. The grill helps.

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Britney, 33. Performing in Vegas is a really hard grind. 

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Jonathan Groff, 30. Perhaps he’s just taking the cancellation of Looking really hard.

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Russell Tovey, 33. He’s not only glad he’s not a femme gay, but that he’s not as old as he looks.

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Zac Efron, 27. He’s not a boy, not yet a daddy. 

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Davey Wavey, 30 (?). Does anyone know this guy’s real age?

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David Beckham, 40. Good job, How-Old. Becks is perfect at any age.

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Tyson Beckford, 44. No wonder this guy is taking it off with the Chippendales.

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James Franco, 37. The man who never sleeps might want to consider taking a long nap.

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Mel Gibson, 59. Anti-semitism keeps a fella looking young.

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Beyoncé, 33. She may sing about being a grown woman, but How-Old begs to differ.

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 Let’s end on a happy note with Patsy Stone, who finally gets her wish.

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Male Strippers Grind To Victory On “Britain’s Got Talent”

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When 27-year-old Lewis from London starts singing, Simon Cowell is immediately unimpressed though that didn’t stop the ladies in the audience from readying their panties to throw on stage.

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But just as he’s warming up, Lewis seems to experience technical difficulties and is joined by some “crew” guys.

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Surprise, surprise! — they’re strippers (officially the Forbidden Nights) and next thing you know — the shirts are off and the panties are flying at the mic stand.

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 Panties and judge David Walliam’s boxer briefs.

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Of course no male stripper performance would be complete without a tearaway pant.

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Lewis had the audacity to think he could get away with standing around wearing trousers but the audience and judges chanted those pants right off.

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Meanwhile, David took an opportunity to quench this pocket stud’s thirst…

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And in true stunt queen fashion, parlayed it into a very sweaty group hug.

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Even Simon was taken by the Forbidden Nights and they were unanimously voted to the next round. Check out why in the clip below:

Les Fabian Brathwaite — never met a pant that didn’t need tearing away. 

High School Teens Step Up To Support Gay Kids When Older Generation Fails

Screen Shot 2015-05-04 at 10.30.21 AMLeave it to a group of teenagers to bring a bit of sanity to the world.

When a billboard promoting so-called gay conversion therapy went up in Elk River, Minnesota, a group of high school students decided to protest on the steps of the Minnesota State Capitol.

“We noticed the sign a few weeks ago and we knew instantaneously that it needed to be taken down. It’s not OK,” said 17-year-old Emily Motin, who helped coordinate the protest.

We love the word “instantaneously” here — it’s a refreshing bit of common sense we keep seeing in younger generations.

Related: Straight Teen Asks His Gay Best Friend To Prom

Screen Shot 2015-05-04 at 10.30.34 AMThe sign advertises counseling by David Pickup, a licensed marriage and family therapist who practices in California and Texas, and says, “Do gay feelings mean you’re “born gay?” People around the world say no!”

Motin and the six other students held their own signs on the Capitol steps that said “Gay is okay” and “Can’t convert love.” Their message is a lot simpler than Pickup’s — gay kids need love, they say, not conversion therapy.

Minnesota’s Pro Family Forum placed the ad on Pickup’s behalf in response to an effort by some state lawmakers to ban ex-gay therapy.

President Obama has called for a national end to practicing conversion therapy on minors, and legislation has been slow to follow.

Only New Jersey, California and Washington D.C. have successfully banned the therapy on minors, despite there being no scientific demonstration of its effectiveness shown in the last 40 years. Legislation is currently underway in Illinois and New York to ban it.

Here’s hoping there are a lot more high school students out there like these ones in Minnesota.

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PHOTOS: Meet Klaus, The 21-Year-Old German Named Mr. Gay World

Klaus_300We know the suspense has been killing you, so without further ado, here is your Mr. Gay World 2015 — 21-year-old Klaus Burkart from (with a name like that where else could he be from?) Germany.

The competition was held over the weekend in South Africa, where delegates were tested in categories like “Mr. Photogenic,” “Social Media,” and “Swimwear” — everything a gay man needs to be a fully-functioning narcissist.

But Burkart does have some admirable goals to leverage his new title. He plans to visit schools to open a dialogue with kids about bullying and gay bashing. We expect he’ll leave his swimwear at home for such occasions.

But that doesn’t mean we won’t take a peek:

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