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Catholic bishops revise document on gays, expect widespread approval

Pope Francis talks to prelates as he arrives at the morning session of a two-week synod on family issues at the Vatican, Saturday, Oct. 18, 2014.VATICAN CITY — Catholic bishops predicted widespread approval Saturday of a revised document laying out the church’s position on gays, sex, marriage and divorce, saying the report is a “balanced” reflection of church teaching and pastoral demands. The final report of the two-week meeting of bishops will be voted on later Saturday. It was rewritten […]

Blood Gusher To Glitter Blasted: Michael C. Hall’s Transgender Rock’n’Roll Transformation

Michael C. Hall, of Dexter and Six Feet Under fame, is the latest actor to step into the imposing heels of Hedwig in Broadway’s smash production of Hedwig and the Angry Inch.

And they are some big shoes to fill. Neil Patrick Harris took home a Tony Award for his glammed out performance, and Girls star Andrew Rannels held his own afterwards.

Here’s a look at Michael getting into character. Just try and tear her down.

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Michael’s custom-made heels

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Co-star Lena Hall blows Michael a kissy.

 

Are Hookup Apps Destroying Gay Culture? This Guy Thinks They Perpetuate Stereotypes

shutterstock_204711889At least one man is not happy about the number of gay guys using hookup apps.

“[I]nstead of advancing the gay agenda of inclusion, I found the apps to perpetuate what people scorn about LGBT: promiscuity, impersonal behavior, and sexually motivated conversations,” Cody Freeman writes in a new essay published by Time“These depersonalized conversations are what lead to depersonalized relationships.”

On the contrary, one might argue that getting totally naked and rolling around in bed with another person creates a very personal relationship — at least for an hour or so.

Freeman claims hookup apps like OkCupid, Tinder and Grindr are destroying gay culture by perpetuating the stereotype that gay men are all a bunch of whores. He also believes the apps encourage “shame-based” relationships. (Of course, it’s only “shame-based” if one thinks being gay is shameful, which Freeman seems to believe, or at least he insinuates it subconsciously.)

“Gay men want those perfect relationships that we see in romantic-comedies, instead of the ultimate fear of our generation: being alone,” Freeman generalizes. “But there is nowhere that is not sex-based to connect.”

Hmmm. We’ve met plenty of other gay guys in non-sexual settings. At school, at work, at parties, you name it. Apps are just one of many methods gay men use to connect. And, contrary to what Freeman implies, not all of us do. There are plenty of gay guys out there who don’t have Grindr accounts.

Freeman acknowledges that the apps aren’t all bad.

“Compared to traditional dating methods, these apps provide many advantages,” he writes, “[Y]ou save time on bad blind dates and boring conversations, you can connect to someone anytime you feel lonely, and if you are rejected you simply move on to the next person.”

But, he continues, that convenience comes with a price.

“[B]ecause there are thousands of people at your fingertips,” Freeman writes, “it also creates a society of oversharing, superficiality, and instant gratification. You are on the grid 24/7 and you must advertise yourself.”

This creates what he calls a “paradox of choice.”

“Be careful who you choose,” he says, “because there might be someone better out there—always.”

Sounds like someone’s been burned more than a few times.

“I assume that I am like most people on these apps,” Freeman writes, “ultimately seeking a lasting relationship.”

Maybe that’s his first mistake.

What do you think? Are apps killing gay culture? Sound off in the comments section below.

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Graham Gremore is a columnist and contributor for Queerty and Life of the Law. Follow him onFacebook and Twitter.

Houston city attorneys change approach to sermon subpoenas

Annise-ParkerHOUSTON -- Houston city attorneys are no longer seeking through subpoenas sermons from five pastors who publicly opposed an ordinance banning discrimination against gay and transgender residents. Mayor Annise Parker said Friday that the city was backing off the sermon request but would not withdraw the subpoenas, which seek other...

This Is Why People Become Sex Workers

How do you become a male prostitute in New York City? For one man it was as simple as typing that question into Google. The Red Umbrella Diaries, an upcoming documentary, offers an empowering look at seven sex workers without the shame that often accompanies many such exposés. Included here is a look at a trans woman who shares her story of growing up in churches that tried to fix her and finding her way to religion and family as an adult who does sex work, and there’s the tale of a gay man who reveals how hooking saved him from poverty and brought him back from a breakdown.

The film is expected to premiere in film festivals next year. Watch the trailer, which contains some NSFW language, below.

Arizona governor Jan Brewer: Same-sex marriage ruling ‘deeply troubling’

Gov. Jan Brewer (R-Ariz.)PHOENIX -- Arizona governor Jan Brewer on Friday said in a statement that federal courts have thwarted the will of voters and eroded the state’s power to regulate laws. Same-sex marriage become legal in Arizona after the state’s conservative attorney general said Friday that he wouldn’t challenge a federal court decision that cleared the way for ...

We Wholeheartedly Support These Near-Naked Fundraising Efforts

Posing “in your pants” sounds more like something you do while jean shopping with your mom than it does a scintillating way of raising money for charity, but we’ll chalk that up to translation.

To Englishmen, pants are undies. Or skivvies. Or the things you decide you can go without on laundry day.

A new campaign to raise money for the fight against HIV has guys stripping to their pants and uploading photo evidence to social media. And any time cute guys are disrobing for a good cause, we’re listening.

Here’s some of Gay Men Fighting AIDS’ (GMFA) fine work:

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Federal judge won’t delay challenge to Arkansas same-sex marriage ban

ArkansasLITTLE ROCK, Ark. -- A federal judge has denied Arkansas' request to delay proceedings in a lawsuit challenging the state's constitutional ban on gay marriage. Arkansas Attorney General Dustin McDaniel earlier this year asked the court to put the case on hold until the U.S. Supreme Court ruled in a case involving Utah's gay marriage ban...

FINALLY, Video Of Channing Tatum As A Teenage Stripper

Screen Shot 2014-10-17 at 2.16.09 PMWe’ve all fantasized about the fact that Channing Tatum got his start as a stripper, but we assumed watching him strut his stuff in Magic Mike and its upcoming sequel was the closest we’d ever come to seeing him in all his gyrating glory.

But thanks to the magic of the internet, a video has surfaced of an 18-year-old Tatum, going by the stage name Chan Crawford, doing his best late ’90s hip-hop inspired seduction ballet.

And OK, we may have been secretly wishing for something like this to appear, but something about seeing a teenager grinding up and down a bunch of middle-aged women kind of makes the whole thing a lot less sexy.

Also, what 18-year-old looks like that?! Come on.

Here’s the video:

Federal judge strikes down Wyoming same-sex marriage ban – Temporary stay has been issued

WyomingCHEYENNE, Wyo. -- A federal judge has ordered Wyoming to allow same-sex marriage but has stayed his decision so that the state can appeal if it wants. U.S. District Judge Scott Skavdahl ruled Friday that the state must comply with a ruling by the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals that permits same-sex marriage....